Often times we are told how we should live, where we should work, what is right for us, without anyone checking in on what it is we want. We allow others to create the reality that we live in, with little or no input from us. This is often the case with those who follow a “different” path in religion or beliefs. It is difficult when one does not “conform” to the holidays or the calendars of the societal norm. As we approach the season of Yule, I am often reminded of how intolerant and selfish others are. They focus on their wants and needs and they don’t create a space where everyone can feel accepted or wanted.

As we move forward in this time of year, a time often for reflection, and for growth, it would do us all good to look at who we are. Are we who we want to be? Are we allowing others to define our reality, or are we living what is expected of us? Are we choosing to the be best we can be, to be accepting of those around us, or are we falling into the same shellfish category that has put us in someone else’s reality as it is?

I am working on me. I am learning how to navigate the world outside of me in a way that allows me to be the best me I can be, and to not fall into other’s reality. I will do things my way. It isn’t that I won’t listen to the ideas of others, or incorporate them, or compromise. What I won’t continue doing is following meekly, allowing myself to be hidden or pushed off because someone expects something different from me.

This will partly include new clothing integrated into an already eclectic wardrobe. Pieces that fit who I am, and who I want others to see me as. So this weekend is purge the closet, keep what I want, shop for what I need. This will also include the continued cleaning of the house, and the making of candles. Those two things have actually been going well.

I will also be getting back here, and making the time daily to create space for tarot (which I miss tremendously), for personal study of the things that interest me, and for my own spiritual and emotional growth. This time of reflection is over, it is time for action. I am not going to stop being me, simply because others aren’t ready to see.

Here is my final thought…create your own reality, be you, and live where you want to be. Don’t let others dictate that.

Tarot today: Ace of Swords

“As the great bard said, there is nothing either good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.”

Core Meaning: An opportunity for a new way of thinking

I don’t hand pick these for the topic of the day. I always do a single card draw to help my day through. I did this draw after I wrote the post. This card is a gift. Be careful with it though, for it represents a new way of thinking, but if mishandled can disappear in a second. Take this time to reflect, to look for the opening, to act wisely, and to create that reality.